ladyeponineblack said: URGENT in-this-h0spital-f0r-s0uls

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Anonymous said: (burn anon) I've been clean for months but since starting school, the craving has become stronger. I'm terrified that my meds aren't working as well as they have been. One day ill be on top of the world, the next day having intense thoughts of suicide. In addition, I'm becoming more aware that my thoughts are obsessive in terms of self harm and suicide. I'm just scared and afraid to discuss this with anyone, including my therapist

Hey dear, 

I’m going to go ahead and answer this since it’s still sitting here. 

These are things that you NEED to discuss with your therapist. I know it’s hard to talk face-to-face sometimes, so maybe send him/her an email and let them know what’s going on. With the really hard stuff that I can’t talk about, I send my therapist an email so we don’t have to talk about it, but we can talk about how to handle it/cope. Why not try that instead? 

Sometimes meds can “wear off” because our body builds up a tolerance to them. If you are still having such severe mood changes, tell your doctor and they can up the dose, change the medication, or add something to the mix. For example: I have to be on several meds to treat the same issue, and the combination works better than any one by themselves, but I had to voice the issues with my doctor to get to that point where my meds are working. You have to be willing to speak up. 

Think of it this way: as hard as it is to say “hey, I’m struggling and I need help,” it’s a lot less scary than continuing to deal with these emotions. Are you at the place where you are so desperate for recovery, you are willing to do whatever it takes? If not, then I suggest you do some digging and find out what you are fighting for. If yes, then it’s time to speak up. It’s scary but it’s also worth it. 

These thoughts of self harm and burning, they are just thoughts and they’re beatable. Even obsessive thoughts are manageable (I deal with them daily). You have to realize that harming yourself isn’t the way to go. It’s a temporary fix and it’s damaging, to yourself, to your goals/dreams and to those around you. It’s time to start looking forward and find a healthy coping mechanism. You can do this <3 

You’re worth recovery, 

Joy





Anonymous said: (1/2) So today at church our pastor asked us how we could improve the church or what is wrong now etc. and my cousin's girlfriend was like there is hidden drama and it's not good and then my cousin complained about it and then some friends of ours and like they all know it's happening and I know it's none of their business to work out our problems but when I try he ignores me so if it's bothering other

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Anonymous said: (2/2) people I don't understand why they say something about it to us. Apparently individual people have gone to him and complained but nobody is helping and I feel almost like it's an abusive relationship because my cousin and his girlfriend are putting all the blame on me and making everyone turn against me and today this guy that we are mutual friends with have me his # in case I needed to talk and at least he cares. He said he could give me advise but I'm not good at texting people first

Hey love, 

I’m sorry things are still so rough with your cousin because of him and his girlfriend. It seems like this relationship isn’t healthy for you at all, and while I understand that he’s family, it might be better to just take a step back. Let them cause all the drama they want and choose not to be a part of it. You’re allowed to walk away from that bs and make your own life apart from it. 

I think talking to this person who gave you their number is a great idea! Maybe not even talking for advice, but just as a friend? It can be really helpful to just have someone to talk to and hang out with. Sometimes, when I’m having a bad day, I’ll hang out with my friends, not to talk about what’s wrong, but to distract myself from it, give myself something good to look forward to :)) I think this would be helpful to you as well. 

Try to distance yourself from your cousin. You’ve tried talking to him and it’s clearly not working, so don’t put that pressure and stress on yourself anymore. Make new friends and maybe he will realize that it’s up to him to make the relationship work. 

Good luck, dear <3 

You’re worth recovery, 

Joy 





Anonymous said: So like this guy I kind of like I didn't think it would ever work out with him and I'm still not so sure but like he's the music leader of the youth and I'm technically still a youth but I'm almost 18 and he's like 24 so that's why I didn't think anything could happen but he told the student pastor, "I know we aren't supposed to have favorites but Elizabeth is my favorite" and holy shit I'm so happy I really like being appreciated and he checks on me when I'm sad sometimes and I like that

Being appreciated is always an amazing feeling :) And im really happy that you have someone that you can trust in your life. Stay positive establish a solid friendship, but i urge you to be careful, be smart, and play it safe. 

With Hope, 

Lindsey 





Anonymous said: (burn anon) Not trying to be rude, but I just want to know if you got my second ask yesterday. I was using my phone and I'm not sure if it went through or not.

Hey there,

We do indeed have your second ask in the box. I’ll check and see who originally replied to you. And I’ll let them know.

Stay strong and keep fighting on,
Hayley





Anonymous said: Ios8 fucked up my phone and I'm not getting a new one. I love my life.

I’m sorry to hear that love, that really sucks! What about it messed up your phone? Do you think you could take it to the store and have them try to help?

I wish you the best,

Alexes





Anonymous said: Please check confessions-of-one-suicidal-boy. He posted a suicide note..

I’ve just sent him a message now, but if any of our followers have a second to send him some love I’ll leave the link below. 

I apologize, I don’t know how long this ask has been in the inbox and I just got home from work.

http://confessions-of-one-suicidal-boy.tumblr.com/

http://confessions-of-one-suicidal-boy.tumblr.com/

http://confessions-of-one-suicidal-boy.tumblr.com/

Stars can’t shine without darkness,

Day

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Anonymous said: My mom is always pissed off at me and it sucks! Today I have an extension cord that goes on my bed because I sleep on the top bunk, she's like you put that down! How am I gonna charge my phone? It's so stupid! She points out everything I fucking do and I'm tired of it! But if I talk to her about it she's gonna be like "I don't wanna hear it blah blah"

Hello darling,

I know it sucks but you do have to listen to your mother more often than not. Is it possible to charge your phone before you go to bed so that it’s charged already or to charge it after she falls asleep so she doesn’t need to see the cord? I understand, my mother seems to constantly be chipping down my back about everything I do wrong. Remember that sometimes you just have to roll with the punches to see the good in every day.

Stars can’t shine without darkness,

Day

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Anonymous said: I want to burn my skin so bad its making my stomach upset.

Hello dear,

Care to explain why? Maybe I can help.

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Anonymous said: Hi! I'm a 29 year old female. I have a great job, a roof over my head, etc. I'm currently recovering successfully from PTSD, anxiety, and depression. Lately I've had the overwhelming urge to CUT. I'm an adult. I 'know better'. I know it won't solve anything. I've been doing all kinds of research but am having a hard time finding articles on adult self-harming urges. But every nerve in my body is telling me cutting is a good idea. It's freaking me out. What the hell is causing this?!?!

Hello love, 

I’m only eighteen, just an adult, but let me try to help you out. Just because you’re an adult and you ‘know better’ doesn’t mean the urges go away. Now, they’ll be stronger if you’ve harmed yourself before but either way you can over come them. It’s great that you’re doing research on them, knowing what you’re dealing with is always a good way to get over what’s going on, but it’s true that there isn’t many articles of the sorts out there.

 Your situation, not to be little you and I’m sorry if I have, is a lot like a teenagers urge to harm themselves after being in recovery for several months. They know they aren’t supposed to do it, but they want to anyways. They know the affects that it has on them and how they’ll just feel emptier afterwards but they can’t help but have the urge to do it. I’m not saying you’re a teenager, but know that a lot of adults do cut and do get the urges as well. Just because you’re older than the average self-harmer doesn’t mean that you have any more self-control or are able to handle yourself better than a teenager that is just as well trying to fight the urge. 

Something helpful for you to know though is that a lot of our admins are as well in their twenties and that a lot of them still struggle day to day with urges. Whether it be from self harm or another type, they’re still dealing with it. When he recovery you can encounter old bad habits that you may have once used and new bad habits may come to mind. I can ask you to be mindful and to try and keep a good head on your shoulders. I don’t see that you’ve mentioned trying any distractions or alternatives so I’ll leave both of those links below for you. Message in when you get the urge, and if we can we’ll have an admin available to help you as much as we can. I hope this helped even a little, urges are very confusing at times to deal with.

http://healing-and-recovery.tumblr.com/distractionskills

http://healing-and-recovery.tumblr.com/Alternatives

Stars can’t shine without darkness,

Day

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Anonymous said: I've been getting a ton of anon hate as well as in person bullying. Idk I just feel lower than I ever have before. I'd kill myself but I don't have the energy and I'm to much of a coward.

Hey lovely, 

I understand this completely. Recently, I’ve gotten a lot of in-person and online bullying/hate that has been hard to deal with. It’s not easy to deal with at all. 

How I look at it though, is that I can make a choice to let their words affect me, or I can choose to stand apart from them. Ultimately, no one gets to decide who you are, what you do or the kind of person you hold yourself to be. Their words don’t get to dictate what is on the inside, unless you let them. If you let them have the control and power over you, then you are no longer in control, you no longer get a say in who you are until you take back that power.

They are just words. I know they hurt, I get that so well. Cry. Scream. Let it out, but pick yourself up and move on from them. Chances are, they are just nutter butters who need to pick on someone to make themselves feel small. We all have our negative coping skills. Some people, like me, taking it out on ourselves, and others, like the bullies take it out on other people. Neither is good. They are both unhealthy. These people are trying to project what they are feeling and breathing on a daily basis and put it on you. Don’t let them. You’re better and stronger than that. They don’t get to have control, you do. 

http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Bullies

Here are some tips on dealing with bullying. It’s never easy, but remember that you are in control and they are pretty much just sad people who have to beat up others, mentally and physically to feel strong. In the end, they are just showing how weak they are. 

You’re worth recovery, 

Joy





Anonymous said: I dont know what I want for myself. Others know what they want to do with their lives. Doctors, artists, engineers, and Me? I don't know. I don't even know why I do the things I love. I thught I did them for myself, if so why do i care so much about what others think. Why do I give up so easily.. I don't even know what I'm feeling right now. Lost, hopeful, hurt, anger? Im graduating soon and I don't have anything to show for it. Its too complicated, growing up.. Is it worth it?

Hey dear, 

Those are some very hard questions to answer because a lot of them are things only you can answer. It’s normal, however, to have multiple emotions at once and also normal to not know what you are feeling. When I get into those places, I write down every thought that comes to my mind, no matter how stupid, on a piece of paper and go back through and identify the emotion that goes along with that thought. It helps to keep my brain organized and so I feel like I have more control over the racing thoughts and emotions in my head. Perhaps this is something you may try as well. 

And hey, you don’t have to know what you want to do right now. You haven’t even graduated yet. I’m in my junior year of college and some people I go to school with haven’t even declared a major, they are in college under “undecided.” So you aren’t alone in that either. What are some of the things you love? What are some things you don’t like, start from there. Maybe take a few career aptitude tests to find out where you fit based on your skills, likes and personality. Just google “Free Career Aptitude Testing” and you should find quite a few you can try. It’s also a very good coping skill, because it’s very forward focused and that’s the goal, keep looking and moving forward. 

Personally, I think growing up is worth it. Okay, that doesn’t mean there aren’t new and different stressors and that doesn’t mean that things automatically become easier. Some things do get harder, but others are lovely :) There is a sense of freedom you don’t have when you are younger. With this, comes more responsibility. I do cry sometimes when the bills add up and I don’t have enough to pay them, so yes, it can get hard. But personally, it’s worth it. It’s worth moving forward in life and onto new things. 

You don’t have to figure it out right now, dear. Just start thinking and it sounds like you are doing that. Don’t stress yourself out trying to get all the answers at once. You have time :) 

You’re worth recovery, 

Joy





Anonymous said: the song "Higher" by Edenbridge just came on my phone on shuffle, as I was about to relapse (7 weeks) and cut again. somehow it encouraged me and now I don't feel like cutting. If you look it up don't watch the video if blood is triggering for you.

I will have to listen to this song :) Maybe it is something we can add to the inspirational playlist we have! Thank you for sharing, dear. 

You’re worth recovery, 

Joy





Anonymous said: Has anyone used dermablend for leg and body? I want to get it but 30$ is a lot for something that might not work so does anyone know if that's the only thing you need to use or do you need to use it with another product to cover up scars that are mostly white/silver. Also does it come off on clothes? If someone can help ASAP I need to find out because I have something on Friday and need to see if I can get it by then or if there is something else that works and doesn't come off on clothes

Hey love, 

I’m going to post so the followers can see and possibly answer. If you need some covering scars tips, check out the link below <3 

http://healing-and-recovery.tumblr.com/scars

You’re worth recovery, 

Joy


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